Early 11 months ago, an article in the Town Crier featured a new diet book called “The Instinct Diet” published by Tufts University weight loss expert Dr. Susan Roberts of Weston. Buried at the end of the article was a little notice to the effect that Sue (as I learned everyone calls her) would be offering an eight-week session of diet counseling groups to Weston residents and that, being a Weston resident myself, I was eligible to apply.
Weight has been my life’s struggle, no question about that. I wasn’t overweight in my 20s, but then three kids, care of aging parents and a busy professional life as a career coach took over and I gained some pounds every year.
It wasn’t that my family eats unhealthy food or doesn’t exercise – we are all health conscious and eat well, and my husband and kids are not overweight. But nothing seemed to work to keep my weight down, and I felt helpless to turn things around.
Having just turned 50, the phrase “fat and fifty” kept playing in my head. I had to do something. So what did I have to lose? Nothing really, except weight of course, and if truth be told keeping my weight down had become such a struggle that I would have been happy to just prevent yet more pounds piling on.
So I applied to the e-mail given in the Town Crier article, and when I wasn’t immediately accepted (the group was very over-subscribed), I lobbied and pleaded and was still in my pajamas when I was offered a spot 30 minutes before the first group started. Right up there with getting married and having my three children, it was one of the best things I have ever done.
The group was great. Sue is a wonderful leader and educator and cares about each person’s success. She knows this stuff cold. We were all successful in losing weight and the support we provided for one another was priceless.
We all lost between 1 and 3 pounds per week consistently and we have all kept it off. Today, I am 30 pounds lighter, and still going down despite major life challenges this year including my father’s death. I am also satisfied and in control of what I eat for the first time in literally decades. More than that, The “I” Diet, as it is now known, has been a transformational experience for me generally:
I feel more hopeful.
I feel healthier.
I feel in control of my food and enjoy what I eat without guilt.
Emotions are not controlling my food decisions, facts and goals are.
I am a better career coach.
Amazingly, my experience has turned out to be typical. While average weight loss on programs and diets like Weight Watchers and Atkins and The Zone is only 7 to 8 pounds over about two months (and after that weight is likely to be regained according to many research studies), the average weight loss in our group was 16 pounds just in the eight-week program. Many of us also wanted to lose more weight than 16 pounds, and kept going to take off an average of 30 pounds.
Even those in the group who had struggled with every diet previously lost at least 1 pound a week, and everybody experienced a reduction in food cravings and a huge change in food preferences that got us actually loving “diet” food. Eleven months on, only one of us has gained weight, and the rest are maintaining happily or are continuing to lose weight according to their goals. Through living with the diet, I have come to understand the reasons it works better than other programs are purely scientific. Unlike other diets, this diet gets you eating in ways that keep all the parts of your brain that deal with food fully satisfied – for example, by reducing hunger and boosting satiety and keeping pleasure and sheer enjoyment high.
Perhaps the best thing about instinctive dieting is that by using the best science to make dieting easier, Dr. Roberts, who in addition to her weight loss credentials is a trained chef, has been able to identify what might appear to be small details in how and what I eat that literally make the difference between success and failure. Staying on the diet today feels easy and natural, a great way to live. Not only are the with-meat and vegetarian recipes and meal suggestions really delicious, but the advice on how to diet even if you don’t cook and how to get your food instincts working to make weight control easier is incredibly helpful.
I repeat to myself quite often mentally the five “food instincts” that the book is built around, and that helps me realize why I have had trouble losing weight and keeping it off. In the past, I used to let myself get hungry, now I don’t. I used to let myself get into situations where the wrong food was available without other choices and now I don’t. I had too much variety in front of me and I turned to foods that were familiar as comfort foods, and now I limit the variety and do not have “the paradox of choice.” I now look forward to eating breakfast and have come to love the “I” diet foods as much as I previously loved more fattening choices. I have always had high cholesterol and losing this weight has helped put my numbers in a healthier range. For the first time in years I have a normal BMI.
Professionally the “I” diet has helped me too. As a career coach, it is my job to guide people on the path to successful job transition and satisfaction. Like it or not, overweight job applicants are often discriminated against. I felt very conflicted coaching my clients to do their best and look their best when I was not succeeding in keeping my weight in check. Now I am setting the positive example. I recommend the “I” diet to my clients with enthusiasm.
Perhaps the best part of the diet for me, even beyond the weight loss, is that I’m no longer afraid of diet failure. In the past, paradoxically, as soon as I tried to “diet,” I actually gained weight! Just the idea of having to track foods and calories set me up for behaving in the opposite manner. I never feel this way with the “I” diet, and most importantly, when I get off track I am able to jump back on and get going again. That is a huge thing for me because there are days when I’m in meetings or visiting friends and have little control over what is on the table.
Knowing that it is easy to get back to weight loss when I get home is the reason that I know now I will never gain weight again.
Dr. Roberts will be starting up a new “I” diet program for permanent weight loss in January. For more details and an application form for groups in Weston e-mail “InstinctDiet@comcast.net” or download an application from “www.InstinctDiet.com”